Friends
**Warning - This is a rant.....a rant that i am just typing away at and not really putting all this in a particular format......don't judge. lol
Isn't there a saying something like "Friends are like Seasons"?
I love having friends...like everyone in life, we all need them and some are closer than others. Friends are there for you in hard times, good times, proud times and "hangs head low" times. There are so many situations a person goes through in life where they really need their friends. Family is beyond the best, but in situations like mine, I don't have my sisters or brothers who are at least 10 minutes away from me to talk to. Friends don't take their place, but they may have gone through things you have experienced sometime in your life and sharing that makes you close. Like me, i'm sure i have friends that have gone through some tough times in life where you feel like you can't do anything but just cry..and i'm not talking about just cry, but i'm talking about the ugly cry where your throat decides to make some crazy sounds that sound like a dog in heat.....Your nose is flowing....You know...don't act like you don't know....
If i'm in a funk or if i'm upset about something, i'm not one to just come out and call/text a friend and say "hey...i need you". I'm the person that secluded myself. I wallow in my own self pity and think about what my world has come to, to put me in the mood I am currently in. This is where the friends come in handy. I have a great family, and i have a great extended family on my husbands side that if i called them and said, "hey"....they would be there for me if I needed. I went through an emotional and mental rollercoaster when my oldest was about to leave, left, attended and graduated boot camp. It was such a new experience for me and those that checked on me, text me, emailed, called....etc, took me by surprise. As a mother, you carry these kids for 9 months...watch them closely, be afraid for them, want them to have friends, want them to make the best decisions and want the best for them in life...This is where the friends come in.....
Everyone has a life, their own life they have made for themselves. Many times you feel like life never gives you a time to breathe. I am going to admit that it was upsetting that some of my friends I considered to be very close to me, never really gave interest at how I was coping with giving my son to the military. I am a zillion percent proud of my son and I am beyond happy at the life he has chosen. I am somewhat surprised at how friends I considered to be close friends, where not really there for me when i needed them. I don't know if you can call it disappointment or feelings being hurt, but I did have friends (shout out to my MGD's) that I thought didn't care, step up to the plate.
I use the terms "Friends are like seasons"....."I have a best friend for every occasion" because I have experienced this situation in my life where I felt like not one non-family member has been there for me consistently. I moved away from my hometown the day after I graduated from HS. I tried to keep in contact with those I was close to but it's hard. We were young and have reestablished our friendship since, but life has changed...we are different people living in different cities and we don't know each other as adults.
Here is my advice for everyone. Be a friend! Don't be a seasonal friend. Friends will go through great times, bad times, ugly times, deaths, differences, arguments, disappointments in life as we all grow, but be a friend. I'm seriously tired of reaching out to people because i don't see people reaching out to me. My son is experiencing the same thing and it really pisses me off. Be there for that person...regardless of your differences. Friends are easy to find but a true friend will text you and even if you don't respond to them.....you need to remember to acknowledge them. Don't be a disgrace...you may be going through something, but be a friend and know if your friend is going through something too. Be there for them. Remember that you are not the only one going through something....so is someone else. Remember that friends argue and disagree..and that's OK...but that doesn't mean you need to end your friendship.
For those that did go out their way to check up on me more than once during those 8 weeks without me texting you first, thank you. You have shown me love.
Remember-Be a friend! Put your pride aside and love those that come into your life.
Isn't there a saying something like "Friends are like Seasons"?
I love having friends...like everyone in life, we all need them and some are closer than others. Friends are there for you in hard times, good times, proud times and "hangs head low" times. There are so many situations a person goes through in life where they really need their friends. Family is beyond the best, but in situations like mine, I don't have my sisters or brothers who are at least 10 minutes away from me to talk to. Friends don't take their place, but they may have gone through things you have experienced sometime in your life and sharing that makes you close. Like me, i'm sure i have friends that have gone through some tough times in life where you feel like you can't do anything but just cry..and i'm not talking about just cry, but i'm talking about the ugly cry where your throat decides to make some crazy sounds that sound like a dog in heat.....Your nose is flowing....You know...don't act like you don't know....
If i'm in a funk or if i'm upset about something, i'm not one to just come out and call/text a friend and say "hey...i need you". I'm the person that secluded myself. I wallow in my own self pity and think about what my world has come to, to put me in the mood I am currently in. This is where the friends come in handy. I have a great family, and i have a great extended family on my husbands side that if i called them and said, "hey"....they would be there for me if I needed. I went through an emotional and mental rollercoaster when my oldest was about to leave, left, attended and graduated boot camp. It was such a new experience for me and those that checked on me, text me, emailed, called....etc, took me by surprise. As a mother, you carry these kids for 9 months...watch them closely, be afraid for them, want them to have friends, want them to make the best decisions and want the best for them in life...This is where the friends come in.....
Everyone has a life, their own life they have made for themselves. Many times you feel like life never gives you a time to breathe. I am going to admit that it was upsetting that some of my friends I considered to be very close to me, never really gave interest at how I was coping with giving my son to the military. I am a zillion percent proud of my son and I am beyond happy at the life he has chosen. I am somewhat surprised at how friends I considered to be close friends, where not really there for me when i needed them. I don't know if you can call it disappointment or feelings being hurt, but I did have friends (shout out to my MGD's) that I thought didn't care, step up to the plate.
I use the terms "Friends are like seasons"....."I have a best friend for every occasion" because I have experienced this situation in my life where I felt like not one non-family member has been there for me consistently. I moved away from my hometown the day after I graduated from HS. I tried to keep in contact with those I was close to but it's hard. We were young and have reestablished our friendship since, but life has changed...we are different people living in different cities and we don't know each other as adults.
Here is my advice for everyone. Be a friend! Don't be a seasonal friend. Friends will go through great times, bad times, ugly times, deaths, differences, arguments, disappointments in life as we all grow, but be a friend. I'm seriously tired of reaching out to people because i don't see people reaching out to me. My son is experiencing the same thing and it really pisses me off. Be there for that person...regardless of your differences. Friends are easy to find but a true friend will text you and even if you don't respond to them.....you need to remember to acknowledge them. Don't be a disgrace...you may be going through something, but be a friend and know if your friend is going through something too. Be there for them. Remember that you are not the only one going through something....so is someone else. Remember that friends argue and disagree..and that's OK...but that doesn't mean you need to end your friendship.
For those that did go out their way to check up on me more than once during those 8 weeks without me texting you first, thank you. You have shown me love.
Remember-Be a friend! Put your pride aside and love those that come into your life.
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